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Age: 56, Height: 5' 11" (180 cm), Weight: 210 lbs (95 kg)
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USA >> Texas >> Dallas >> Lakewood / White
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........... WHAT I VALUE ABOUT MYSELF...........First and foremost, I consider myself a good guy and think that is my best character trait. Beyond that, I`m a good friend, have a great sense of humor, am extremely intelligent, and am very loyal to the people in my life. ...........MAKING A LIVING...........I work for myself in the-puter field. Really like it alot. I enjoy being a good boss-- and providing people a great place to-e to work to. I enjoy making a good living, and it`s more than just a means to an end. Work can be fun, it doesn`t have to be hard. However, the best part of work is what the fruits of your labor allow for-- traveling, helping family, and enjoying a good life. ...........FAMILY...........I`m lucky enough to have a wonderful family and it`s a real blessing in my life. I grew up with my mother`s extended family, and later in life have gotten to know the large extended family on my fathers side. I feel really lucky to be accepted (as a gay guy) to the degree to which I am. It`s an unbelievable feeling to know that the people who you love the most love you back, despite your differences. I try to be a positive influence at all times in my family so that it stays a great place for everyone. ...........EDUCATION...........I grew up in rural Oklahoma, and I received the quality of education that most poor-munities get-- which is to say, pretty sad. I had a few really great teachers here and there that made a great difference in my life. Where I feel I really blossomed was in College. Went to OSU (1 year) and Trinity University (4 years) were I received a first class Liberal Arts education. Until I began receiving one, I had no idea what that meant. If you don`t, look into it as a concept-- it`s probably the biggest educational breakthrough that American education ever made. ...........CONTINUING EDUCATION...........I`m a voracious reader. Hard to speak in terms of averages-- because I tend to read in bursts-- but I average about 1 book a week. The topics range all over the place fiction, scifi, anthologies, essays, non-fiction, etc. As well, I`m a freak for the Discovery Channel, History Channel, A&E, and all of the other educational channels. I also have to ongoingly read technical books for my job. ...........DATING...........Recently ended a one-year relationship with a really great guy. In fact, he was great. It ended because he wasn`t out of the closet and couldn`t ever foresee a time that he ever would. That killed me. Because I thought if you love someone, you put them before everyone else. Unfortunately, not everyone thinks alike on that one, and it eventually became a fundamental in-patibility. I wish him the very best in life, and he will remain one of my best friends, but I had to move on. Am looking for someone who I can introduce to my family and who wants to build a life together. I`m 100% monogamous-- not for moral reasons-- because that`s what works. I`m really serious about that. I don`t think you should characterize in terms of right and wrong (this is not a moral relativist argument, by the way) but you should think about it in terms of what works... be rigorously pragmatic about it. ...........MY TYPE...........Physically, I don`t really have a hard and fast type, but I tend to like bigger guys. You don`t need to be a supermodel. In fact, if you`re too good looking, I probably won`t be interested. I like effortlessly normal guys who are decent looking and cool. You must be out. I will not do that again. I enjoy doing outdoor things, and a variety of sports and exercise. Like doing them with the person I`m dating so we can have that together. ...........KIDS...........I want kids. Have several lesbian friends who want to have a family with me (and a partner). You can have kids already, or you can want them with me, but I`m not going to get with someone who`s not accepting of my intentions to be a dad. Where I`m-ing from is that kids make life incredibly fulfilling. As a parent, it`s most people`s experience of living for another. Having your focus on others gives you a different experience of life. I love kids and can`t wait to love my own crazily. ...........SEX...........I like it alot. I think you can have great sex with absolutely anyone. It just takes-munication about what is working and a-mitment to helping everyone get what they need. Safe sex is the only way to go, but once your in a monogamous relationship, let`s do it anyway we want. ...........HIV...........I`m negative. I came out as a result of volunteering for AIDS charities and for the rights of people living with AIDS. I feel like I owe much of my happiness as a gay man to the courage I have experienced from the-munity of people living with AIDS. However, I won`t date someone who is HIV positive. I want to have kids together with my partner (some mine, some his), and none of my potential moms (who are friends) are willing to take a risk with someone who is positive. As well, I don`t want to plan to contemplate losing someone before we`re both very old. The advances in medicine for people living with HIV are incredible, and I have to believe that science will keep its lead, but the concerns involved just don`t work for me in an intimate relationship. I know that death can visit any of us in the next instant, but I don`t want to think about losing my loved one too soon. I apologize if this hurts anyones feelings, but it`s what works for me. ...........MEETING YOU...........I`m going to take it really slow. I think it works better to talk on the phone for quite a while (weeks or months) before I meet someone. I absolutely will not have sex with you till I know you really well, and am most likely starting to develop feelings for you. That`s just what works for me, so that`s what I`m sticking with. I like going on dates to the putt-putt golf course, volunteering together, going around White Rock Lake, or going to movies (love em). I don`t need to go to gay bars, in fact, going there with a date makes me un-fortable. I also would want to take you around my friends, because they`re like my second family and you`ll need to feel-fortable with them. ...........LANDMARK FORUM...........I took this weekend course from LANDMARK EDUCATION at the advice of one of the most level-headed, together people I`ve ever known, and it absolutely knocked my socks off. The Landmark Forum is a weekend long inquiry into what it means to be human, and what that means to your life. It`s the most amazing course offered in the world (as far as I know). All of the top 5 couples I`ve ever been around (in terms of how well their relationships functioned) have been people who did it together. It`s just an amazing experience, and anyone who`s done it immediately jumps to the top of my list of potential candidates. Simply because the wisdom you get from that education makes so much more possible in a relationship and I want a great relationship. ...........That`s it for now. Might add more later if it-es up. Ask me any questions you have. ...........Take care, Kirk
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