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Monogamy
Seems to me the gay world dislikes the term monogamy. So men do not believe 2 men can fall in love with each other and have a life together. Why is that? To be honest it does seem a difficult thing to find. I was married to a man for 7 years and we were both very happy. We stayed loyal and true to each other. I lost him to an auto accident in 98 and it was a tough time for me. BUT! Knowing I had that before makes me feel I can again. However, I am beginning to wonder. Guys I have dated around this area all of them ALL of them expected sex as if a date equals sex. To me sex is something special and when you love that person the sex is simply better. You can make love and you can have wild ass sex too. Sex is the love made manifest. I have actually had some guys call me a liar cause I say I dont have casual sex. Well guess what I dont, and frankly I dont give a crap if anyone believes me or not. I am an old fasahioned guy who believes in loving someone for life, and stayin true to him. Guys who say this and that but dont mean any of it. Players, liars, cheaters. You find this in the straight world too. Just seems like a lot of people have some issues they need to work on. Morals are important. |
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Monogamy
I just read your wonderful thoughts of monogamy. I am extremely impressed that there are other men that feel this way. I cannot STAND it when, on the first date, there seems to be an "understanding" that physical sex is NECESSARY. IT IS NOT and for me, it usually destroys the whole date when it is expected. The whole point of the date was to get an initial impression of each other. Alot of times the sex will NOT be that great because IT IS THE FIRST TIME and you have only know the person for 1 to 2 hours tops!! NOT EXACTLY IN DEPTH.
For me, this has been1 of the discouraging reasons that I dislike dating from ANY website, DO NOT CONFUSE THIS WITH ALL DATES as there are some that TRULEY do work.
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Monogamy
wow excellent words, all we know that in the world gay is very easy to have sex, any place is good, and any person available also, if he is that you want a little pleasing instinctive, but for the people that we want something beyond of, the people which we looked for extending beyond in the company of another person, sex happens to second , and is then where the love, the company and the affection, are our better drugs than they give us to please, if all of the people the world wants to share their life with every body ,go ahead, I hope that to finish of his life, know well where they are, and that did of their life, the life gay has a characteristic, is very solitary or lonely.
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Monogamy
i agree with him i belive true love is out there i have to other wise life is way to depressing to live i havent had the best of luck with men im 24 and only had 8 sexual partners and sad to say i was young at the time and still learning so i guess you can say i have trust issues and thats makes geting close to people hard sometimes hard to trust people honestly guys in the past have ether lied to me used me betrayed me or left me and i spent the last 5 years with out dateing or sex i honestly gave up on love now im just trying to meet decent honest people and become friends and see were it leads but men were i live can be shallow so thay act like how someone looks or cock size matters more then who thay are inside and i guess i was raised with old values i was told to treat others how i wanna be treated and whats in someones heart matters more then the out side but maybe im the only1 that belives in true love and judgeing someone on there actions not there race or the way the dress or look |
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Monogamy
I'm new to this dating stuff. At 53 I have just newly accepted that I am gay. But what I want from another man is what you mention here. |
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i think that it is possible to have a monogomous relationship. i believe that it is a character of strength and true selflessness and commitment. i have never been in1. however, if i had the chance to be with someone, you bet i would wnat a1 on1, an open relationship to me is just an excuse not to be trusted. |
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Well my opinion is most men cheat whether gay,straight,or that urban legend "Bi". Males are wired to propogate the species..while females are wired to stay put and nurture their young. Ok ok so its [#] and perhaps we have become so sophisticated that we dropped the loin cloth and stone club genetics..but in my experience as an openly gay male for over 30 years ..those who are prone to cheat do and those who are not prone ..do after the1s who are prone do.:)The typical line from these chat sites sums it up "I'm just looking for fun till the right1 comes along"..so until gay created social venues stop encouraging and tolerating such thinking as the norm..Fred Flintstone will continue to cheat on Wilma and most likely with Barney..Betty...and Dino after a few beers..of course there are exceptions to every rule..but bottom line its still the rule.
My advice to those searching for "the1" ..love finds you..not the other way around..the best you can do is make yourself the best person you can be and hope someone out there appreciates the effort. |
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Monogamy is where it's at. My internal programming led me to find JUST1 man, which is a losing pursuit with men. Of course there are exceptions but they are few and far apart. I don't know how to see an endless number of faces in my bed. It just doesn't feel good and makes me dizzy. |
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you need to have trust with people before you have sex. sex is the most intimate thing you can do with another person and you need time to build intimacy.do not have sex on the first date.good things come to those who wait. |
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